Prologue:
I came home early on Wednesday - due to my mistake of not checking the phone before leaving for the meeting. I reached the door of the meeting room, only to find out it is locked & grilled! Checked my phone - it has been postponed to next Wednesday.
I already switched off my PC at the office, and I need to send my boy home anyway, so we went home early - he got to play badminton with his friend & also ride the recently available bike while I got to watch a Korean movie.
Earlier in the morning, I already prepared the soup for kue teow kungfu and mixed the batter of egg & kue teow - ready to be deep fried. Messaged my eldest, told her to fry it when she wants to eat it.
Alas, she got stomach ache & went to work - no time even for breakfast of burger that I had prepared!
So, while I was watching the movie, she came home & felt hungry. I told her to fry that thing to eat. Just heat the oil in the pan & 'throw' it in! She called for the father to do it - I insisted that you have to try frying kue teow on your own (she doesn't want even to fry keropok lekor coz of the oil splattering - BTW she's 20 & been in kitchen classes). She started to reheat the oil in the pan & all I heard was how she was never going to fry it again after this blablabla... the father came to the rescue while I pretended ignorance.
Thursday morning:
Again, the son's tupperware remained unwashed. I started to grumble loudly - why the father has to do everything? It is a simply duty cum responsibility that I want him (mind you, he is 13 yo now) to practice.
Since I got kinda mad, I messaged the father later during office hour. I said, this kind of behaviour is totally unwarranted. How long we, as parents, are going to do everythings for our kids? Is this the way we are preparing them for adulthood? And more bebelan continues...
His only replied, in short: will talk to the kids....and a long silence follow.
I felt a bit unsure and frustrated too ...why didn't he respond to me? Blablabla...
It so happened that yesterday was my housekeeping day at Iris -which I already asked permission the day before. So, I spent time at the other home- cleaning & thinking....and purposedly went home late - after 10pm.
I came in the house- already half darken - scary, everyone in their respective room. The father is sleeping..
Later in bed, I said sorry to him...I also said, I will not talk of this matter any more - for lack of response from his side. I thought that was the end of it.... eventually after some time passed by, he quietly said he already cancelled the kids' phone line - everybody!!! I was shocked!!! Why? I didn't ask for that extreme measures...all I asked for is for the kids to know their responsibility like praying on time, and together if possible, helping out especially when we go back to hometowns. What if they resent me - as the step mother? I am sure the kids will think that I am the one who suggested the idea.
Friday, today:
My son called while I was out picking up the 2nd and 3rd daughter from school. Where is his phone? I dunno...Last night he already asked his father, why his phone has no line - a cross sign? The father said, he simply has no money....
I don't know what is going to happen next ....I pray for the best! In a way, this is a good time as any -might be too late even - 3rd daughter is sitting for her PT* by end of this month. She still failed her History & Geography - new exam format - those are the known results. She passed her English but with lower marks. During the recent balik kampung trip, she didn't bring any books - while I brought along her Math & Science 2018 trial paper for discussion.
No. 2 still failed 1 paper while No.4 failed as many as 5 subjects for the mid-term exam.
