Note: I’m writing this piece based on my observations & open talks with two guys who is closely related to me & also their kids respectively.
There’re similarities & differences between the two polygamy-scenarios.
Both guys married for the second time in secret from the whole extended family (parents & siblings from both sides). Each of them married for the 1st time of their own choosing, going through the normal process: berchenta, bawa balik jumpa keluarga & now settled down, having grown-up kids.
A much older Guy A married a much younger divorcee (with one kid from earlier marriage) from Batam (kawen sempadan), in secret from the first wife. They met in a karaoke club while he was entertaining clients (Why? WHY? …in the the 1st place? Not that I’m judging him here!) & she used to work there to earn a living. The ex-husband is asking her for lots of money by threatening to sell her baby (at that time). So, being a manly man, Guy A felt the need to be A Knight in Shining Armour & rushed to the rescue. Now that had happened, the Very Supportive Surrounding Male-Friends urged him: “Eh Mat, takkan tolong percuma saja. Alang2 tolong tu, kau kawen terus dgn dia…..”
A younger Guy B married a lil’bit older divorcee with no kid. Same thing, some thing to do with Ingin Menolong Golongan Wanita yang Lemah, Teraniaya blablabla……but since they’re all professional & work in the legal system, he somehow followed the legal procedure by getting permission from the 1st wife. Here is the catch – usually, (permission for) polygamy is allowed or granted (different according to state-syariah law like S'gor here) if the guy/husband can prove to court the need to take a second wife, like maybe the 1st one incapable of being Kids-Breeder (example only) for him, tak cukup memberikan kasih-sayang etc. etc AND also kemampuan zahir (financially) & batin (ADIL???). In his case, he said (in court): There’s nothing lacking with his 1st wife, his love for her doesn’t diminished even one bit (after 3 kids & years of marriage; from rags to riches moments..) BUT…there’s still a place in his heart for ONE more person to be loved!
Ok, so that’s the Best-Happy part. To be continued….What happened in reality: Post-Poligamy.
Tuesday, 29 September 2009
Wednesday, 16 September 2009
MyEG - bad service experience
Dear Sir/Madam,
It's my first time using your MYEG services today.
I had problem in Step 6 (out of 7) in making payment for the auto insurance using the FPX method - supposedly there are 3 online receipts at the end; the FPX - OK , the bank-CIMB - OK & the merchant side - PROBLEM WITH YOUR TRANSACTION. CROSS-CHECK ACCOUNT BEFORE REINITIATING TRANSACTION.
I checked my online bank a/c plus I also contacted Etiqa & eventually confirmed that payment has been deducted.
The same thing happened for the JPJ's road tax renewal.
Since I don't know whether both transactions have been completed or NOT, & call (many times) to 0378018888 wasn't pick-up at all, I went to the nearest e-services centre @ Sg Dua, Penang to ask for help.
The lady in-charge was so rude when I asked her to check whether my transaction was completed, i.e. in the system. This was more or less what she said:
Do you know that I have to check beribu2 transaction (based on car plate no.) just to find your plate no?
(And I did offer her my other info to facilitate her search.)
It is her job isn't it?? Otherwise, she can always tell me earlier that it's not within her job description! Or simply no help from them.
My point is,
when I finally managed to get somebody from HQ (goes by the name Fazrul or something?), he checked my plate no & easily told me that the payment is stucked @JPJ or something - so the lady must be NOT making any serious effort in trying to help solve my simple problem at all.
I'm sad to say that the company's staff mentality towards what constitute good-customer services (as experienced) is TOTALLY LACKING as basic courtesy went down the drain. Even repeated calls to so-called hotline wasn't pick-up, reason being - engaged??!!! I guess your company is NOT ready yet to provide excellent e-service to the public. PLS improve first, starting from your human resources!
Thank YOU for your kind attention.
Sincerely & with my deepest regret,
It's my first time using your MYEG services today.
I had problem in Step 6 (out of 7) in making payment for the auto insurance using the FPX method - supposedly there are 3 online receipts at the end; the FPX - OK , the bank-CIMB - OK & the merchant side - PROBLEM WITH YOUR TRANSACTION. CROSS-CHECK ACCOUNT BEFORE REINITIATING TRANSACTION.
I checked my online bank a/c plus I also contacted Etiqa & eventually confirmed that payment has been deducted.
The same thing happened for the JPJ's road tax renewal.
Since I don't know whether both transactions have been completed or NOT, & call (many times) to 0378018888 wasn't pick-up at all, I went to the nearest e-services centre @ Sg Dua, Penang to ask for help.
The lady in-charge was so rude when I asked her to check whether my transaction was completed, i.e. in the system. This was more or less what she said:
Do you know that I have to check beribu2 transaction (based on car plate no.) just to find your plate no?
(And I did offer her my other info to facilitate her search.)
It is her job isn't it?? Otherwise, she can always tell me earlier that it's not within her job description! Or simply no help from them.
My point is,
when I finally managed to get somebody from HQ (goes by the name Fazrul or something?), he checked my plate no & easily told me that the payment is stucked @JPJ or something - so the lady must be NOT making any serious effort in trying to help solve my simple problem at all.
I'm sad to say that the company's staff mentality towards what constitute good-customer services (as experienced) is TOTALLY LACKING as basic courtesy went down the drain. Even repeated calls to so-called hotline wasn't pick-up, reason being - engaged??!!! I guess your company is NOT ready yet to provide excellent e-service to the public. PLS improve first, starting from your human resources!
Thank YOU for your kind attention.
Sincerely & with my deepest regret,
Sunday, 6 September 2009
Terkilan
When my simple action might be misunderstood.
I love coming to my office even on weekends as home is simply where I take my rest & rilex.
In my so-called 'previous life' - I did the same too! My friends & family can attest to that fact.
Do I have to explain everything to you/everybody who is around?
Can we please let go of this 'what a small-world mentality' as 2 plus 2, in this case, certainly doesn't necessary mean 4 (to me!)!!!
I love coming to my office even on weekends as home is simply where I take my rest & rilex.
In my so-called 'previous life' - I did the same too! My friends & family can attest to that fact.
Do I have to explain everything to you/everybody who is around?
Can we please let go of this 'what a small-world mentality' as 2 plus 2, in this case, certainly doesn't necessary mean 4 (to me!)!!!
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